Parenting is mysterious, wonderful and most unexpectedly, a great opportunity for personal growth. So often it is far too easy to become a parent, but the leap from birthing a child to parenting well can be as wide as the Grand Canyon. Children have a knack for knowing which buttons to push, their timing exquisite, not really caring how it is impacting you. They can be incredibly insightful and fantastically immature, all in one moment.
What makes a great parent, and how does one achieve that? Is it getting great kids? Being born with an innate sense of how to parent? Also, what happens when you adopt a child or are a foster parent, and they came from very different environments than the one in which you were raised?
What if Chad came from a home where the outlook on life was similar to this home? Would they be able to view the world as a safe, happy place? Since all they have known is a broken down place, would they be able to imagine a world in which they could thrive without worrying about their well-being, where they could imagine being able to rely on basic provisions of food, shelter and clothing? Often, children who come from those circumstances form odd coping behaviors of hoarding, eating enormous amounts of sugar, lying, and being sick on school mornings.
What if Chad grew up in this type of home? Chances are, he would have a more normal outlook on life. I am not so naive to suggest that the mere exterior of a home guarantees a happy upbringing. Think of it as a metaphor of a home well taken care of, including those residing within.
In this type of home, Chad could count on having regular meals, adequate clothing, restful sleep and happy experiences.
How does one either create a happy home for a child that didn't come from one, or how does one build one in the first place?
As a parent of four grown children, I have many insights, suggestions, helps, tips and secrets to being a successful parent of all ages, from pre-birth to adult. Maintaining open communication, fostering trust and creating mature responsible adults is not easy. Learn from my mistakes as well as successes.
I am a certified Beyond Consequences instructor (http://www.beyondconsequences.com). The curriculum is geared for children of severe behaviors, but they are also universally applicable.
For further help and information, please contact me at 720-201-5030